What Do Guys Find Attractive?

Do you often look at happy couples that ‘appear’ mismatched and silently wonder; what do guys find attractive? The girl appears deliriously happy with what you consider to be average looks but at her side is a great looking guy that you would kill for and to add to the puzzle you notice that he is completely taken in with her. They appear mismatched to you and with a smidgen stab of jealousy you wonder; what do guys find attractive? What does he see in her? You are a nice girl with decent or even great looks and you just can’t seem to attract and keep the type of man that you want for very long. So what do guys find attractive?

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For a guy looking for or in a relationship (as opposed to just sex) there are both inner and outer (physical) qualities that guys find attractive, consciously or unconsciously.

1. She is at peace with herself. One of the qualities that guys find attractive is a woman who is at peace with herself. This is a woman who is comfortable with whom she is as a woman. She is happy, smiles easily and is a pleasure to be around.

a. She relates well with others and is not completely self obsessed. She doesn’t need to keep putting others down and does not need everything to revolve around her.  She is also not hypersensitive, crying easily or making everything personal and magnifying none issues into life and death situations. Guys find attractive, a comfortably happy woman at peace with herself!

b. She speaks clearly and with confidence. She is not loud and obnoxious. She really listens when her guy talks and doesn’t listen with the sole purpose of interrupting and getting her point across. Guys find attractive, a woman who is genuinely interested in them.

c. She is honest and is able to share her feelings, beliefs or values and so will not tell a guy what he wants to hear just to keep him interested. The problem with dishonesty is that it tends to come out sooner or later and this can jeopardize a relationship. Guys find attractive, a honest woman who says what she means and means what she says!

d. She does not believe the preconceived notions about men e.g. all men are dogs etc, but gives a guy room to reveal who he is without judging him and then treats him as an individual with his strengths and weaknesses. Guys find attractive a woman who takes and treats them as individuals and not like ”all men”.

e. She does not talk in circles but lets her guy know what it is that she wants. She knows her guy is not a mind reader and so communicates her needs and wants clearly to him. Guys find forthrightness attractive.

f. She is able to admit it when she is wrong and to apologize. Nobody wants to be with a know-it-all who never admits she is wrong even when she obviously is. Guys find the confidence to apologize attractive.

2. She is independent but vulnerable. Another thing that guys find attractive is a woman with goals for her life and career and who is independent but vulnerable. Guys find attractive a woman who is confident in her abilities, who is rational, able to resolve conflicts and who loves intimacy.

a. She is not looking at a guy as a paycheck but as a partner. Money is important but nobody wants to be dehumanized into a wallet.

b. She does not mindlessly follow her girlfriends’ advice but has a mind of her own.  Guys find a woman with a mind of her own attractive.

c. She fights fair and does not bring out offenses from 3 months or 3 years ago.  She deals with the conflict, forgives or accepts forgiveness and then moves on and does not rehash the issue again when there is a new conflict.

d. She is not needy and does not make the guy jump hoops just to test his love for her. She lets the guy know what he had said or done to make her angry instead of just giving him the silent treatment. He may not know he offended you and keeping quiet frustrates the guy as he does not know what he did and so cannot make it up to you.

e. She does not call him dozens of time in the day just to ask “what you doing?” A woman who constantly calls a guy comes across as insecure and nobody wants to be around someone who needs constant reassurance….its emotionally draining.

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3. She respects herself. Another trait that guys find attractive is a woman who respects herself and carries herself with dignity. And because she respects herself she also respects her guy.

a. She does not push him into activities that he has no interest in.

b. She does not volunteer him or involve him in couple activities without consulting him.

c. She does not try to get rid of all his friends but hangs out with him and his friend when it’s possible and if this is something the guy wants to share with her.

d. She takes an interest in the things that are important to the guy and willingly participates in some of them.

e. She is not constantly complaining about her ex as this makes him wonder whether you are really over your ex. Overcome the temptation to compare your guy negatively with anybody else even when you are tempted to. Unless you want to hook up with the other guy this comparison does nothing good for your relationship.

4. She is feminine. Another trait that guys find attractive is a woman who is feminine and acts and feels like a woman. She takes care of her appearance and grooming.

a. Her clothes fit her well. Her dressing style suits her body type and she is not overflowing her clothes or on the other extreme lost in them.

b. She has gracious table and grooming manners.

5. She is not a walkover. Another feature that guys find attractive is a woman who is a challenge to him. As human beings the easier we get something the less likely we are to cherish and appreciate it.

a. She is a challenge so that when he finally gets her he values and cherishes her.

Guys do vary and so these are general guidelines on attributes that guys find attractive.  Some guys may be less fussy than others or may be attracted to other additional qualities but these are good guiding principles.

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